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One of the most common obstacles we have to overcome when meeting new clients at Hope & Freedom is that, at some point in therapy, the wounded partner was told in so many words, “Just be sexier.” When couples are having troubles related to sex, couples therapists sometimes assume that the problem is that she’s just tired, or he has a high sex drive. The solution to their marital woes? Just have sex more. This might well be the case for some couples, but for others, the problem is much deeper. As a clinician dealing with couples who have wide ranging needs and complex histories to sort through, you know as well as I do that the diagnosis and treatment for any couple’s challenges is rarely as simple as it may seem. What if there is a bigger issue than high sex drive at stake?